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Cultivating a Blame-Free Relationship with Non-violent Communication

Spring 2023

Blame is a tragic way of sharing with others what matters to us but is left unfulfilled and a tragic way of getting the other to respond to our needs. While it works sometimes, sooner or later we will pay the relational costs.

In this workshop, Dr. Joseph Cho, lecturer of Gender Studies Programme from The Chinese University of Hong Kong introduced us the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) communication process developed by psychologist Marshall Rosenberg. It is a compilation of ideas about compassionate human behavior to helps us connect with ourselves and others at the level of feelings and needs in our intention, attention and communication.

By learning the 4 NVC components (Observation, Feeling, Needs & Request), we could express ourselves clearly and honestly while listening to our needs and others. To transform the blame into a need-based request, we will no longer need to use the language of blame or judgment to make demands or evaluate others. We can experience the deep pleasure of contributing to each others' well being.